16 and pregnant help:(?

Question

hey
im 16 and did 3 tests erllier all sed i was positive i used contraception evrytime we had sex and ive only had sex like 4 times!
i dont know wht to do i dnt think i can keep the baby or tell my parents they will go mad
im not sure wheter to tell my bf he is 18 but im scared of wht he is going to say i knw he will stick by my choices but i dont no wht to do please helpp

Answer 1

First let me say take a slow breath. I was in a very similar situation, I was 17 when I got pregnant and my BF was 16. now I am not going to say its all peaches and cream because its not, but it isnt as hard as many people make it out to be either. If you want more info on what to do you can email me. Also excuse me for a moment when I say to all of those people who are being very rude, TELLING HER THIS WA STHE BIGGEST MISTEAK OF HER LIFE WILL GET HER NO WHERE, SO SIT BACK AND SHUT UP, YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT IS LIKE TO GO THROUGH THIS, JUST BECAUSE SHE DID WHAT EVERY ONE OF YOU DO ON A NORMAL BASIS AND ACTUALLY GOT PREGNANT DOESNT MAKE HER A BAD PERSON. SHE WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH HER LIFE FROM NOW ON, NOT YOU! Good luck Sweetie, if you have any questions you can email me, you can make it and you DO NOT have to give your child up, its just another option. And your parents can NOT make you.

Answer 2

I would share with your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will be supportive of you during this time and help you to come to a decision that is best for the both of you. Also, if you abort without telling anyone, including your boyfriend, he may continue to expect sexual relations, and you'll have a hard time coming up with an excuse about safety if he isn't aware of the pregnancy now. And if he doesn't love you and he's just in it for the sex, it's important to know that ASAP!



Then, if the two of you make the decision together early on that the best scenario is to abort, then you can get that done without letting your parents know. Just bear in mind that once you do make that decision, if that's the way you go, it's something you'll live with for the rest of your life - wondering how things would have gone otherwise, etc. Not to say that you'll necessarily regret - but you'll always be wondering. So make certain in your mind that it won't be regret before you make a final decision that way.



If you and your boyfriend want to try to keep the baby, try to work out a "plan" - how will the two of you live and support yourselves to the best of your ability? What might you need help/support from your parents with? Then approach your parents and let them know of the situation, but with a plan in mind as a reasonable adult. They will probably have a bit of a shocked reaction at first, but once they see that you are acting as an adult in the matter, they will probably be more than willing to offer you what support they can. I know it can be embarassing, but most parents just want to see what is best for their child and they will be more helpful than you think in these matters.



I once thought I might be pregnant - I was about your age and I was very inexperienced, also. Luckily, I was very close with my mother, and so she was the first person I talked to, and we didn't talk to my father about it. We found out shortly after (I believe I may have started my period the same day I talked to her) that I wasn't pregnant. So also be aware that the test can be wrong, especially if you have inconsistent cycles. Stress can cause the cycle to be late, and sometimes that throws the test because you are not in the part of your cycle that you think you might be. I had a negative test, but that doesn't mean that your "positive" tests might not be wrong.



May the best of luck be with you...

Answer 3

You need to make a big decision!!!

I found out that I was pregnant when I was 16 my boyfriend (now husband) was 16 as well. We decided to keep our daughter. The decision was easy for us because that was the way it needed to be. Both of our parents were very supportive!! I lived with my parents until I was 18 and my daughter was 2 and then my husband and I moved out and got our place. We both had finished high school and had jobs by then so we could make it.

Our daughter Alexia just turned 5 years old and I am so glad that we made the decision that we made. She is a blessing and is so smart and beautiful!! My life would not be the same with out her.

We now have 2 children, and are buying a house and have wonderful jobs.

I just want you to know that you can do it, and if you don't think that you can consider adoption because there are so many couples out there that want to have children that can't. It would be such a blessing to be able to grant someone with the miracle of a child!!!

Good luck sweety and stay calm. See doctor and make sure to talk to your parents. They may be upset in the beginning but they will clam down, you are there daughter and they will love you unconditionally. At least that is what happened with me.

Answer 4

First, you may want to go have a blood test done. Sometimes HPTs are wrong. Go to your doctor or to Planned Parenthood and have them do a blood test. If that comes back positive too then speak with Mom and Dad immediately.



Honestly, at 16 it's tough to understand parents and how they work. I went through some really hard times when I was a teenager (I'm 22 now and at law school) and even though your parents will be upset and disappointed, they will help you. There's no question they will help you make whatever decision is best for you. Pregnancy that young is really difficult to deal with and it would be impossible to manage without the help of your parents. Boyfriends are great, and I married my high school sweetheart, but an 18 year old boy (who sadly might not even be THAT serious about you and you may not realize it) is no substitution for parents.



It will suck, I promise, but the 'rents are best equipped to help you through this difficult time.

Answer 5

OK I am not trying to be mean, but there is nothing "exciting" about being a mother at 16. I am a 30 year old single mother, pregnant with my 3rd child and believe me, it will be much harder for you. You should tell your parents and your boyfriend and, while I am not advocating abortion, you should think about your future and what life would be like for you at 16 years old with a child. You should be very scared because being pregnant is no joke and raising a child is hard work. Make wise decisions and yes tell your parents so that they can help you, after all, they are still responsible for you. Think about all aspects of this situation and then once you have done that, decide what you are going to do. At 16 I remember "thinking" I knew everything and what was best for me, but you need guidance right now. If you want to talk more, feel free to email me. Good Luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 6

the best thing to to is tell your bf first. you and him need to talk about it cause it is BOTH of your baby. second if you decide to keep it you might as well tell your parents if not find a friend that is over 18 and find a doc (planned parenthood is good if there is one in your area. remember this a a big step in life and if you keep it you have to grow up fast. no parties, a lot less hangin out and if you planned on going to college it will make it almost impossible. so just think hard and i wish you the best of luck either way.

Answer 7

It only takes one time to get pregnant.



Well give it up for adoption or abort. But either way your parents are going to have to find out.

Talk to your boyfriend, and let him know this is a hard position that you are in. And if he truly is there for you he won't say anything to hurt you. Also, it's his kid too so he might want a say in what you do with it. In any case the decision is ultimately up to you guys, but it is probably best that you don't keep it.



You'll get through this in one piece, so don't worry too much. At least you were protecting yourself.

Answer 8

ok im 16 to but keeping the child even tho other may think im not to ready for an baby yet dont make an mistake and thro your babys live away its not the cleverest idee to be pregnant at 16 like me but its fun and my parents cried when they found out God gave you that baby for a reason dont mistake it as a problem or a mistake its better playing it open cards then being afraid your baby is going to feel rejected even if your an week pregnant!!!! please go and do an test because sometimes it could be stress and pregnancy test arent 100% accurate Take a blood test rather!!!GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

You need to tell your parents and your bf.As they are the ones who will be able to help you.I hope you don't plan to abort this child,as you are the one who made the mistake and that child has a right to live.You can alway's give it up for adoption as there are many people that would be a great parent.You really need to think seriously about your choices.As you don't want to regret what you do later in life.Hope you make the right choice

Answer 10

Hey well first of all dont panic calm down...yea things seem really bad but its not the end of the world believe me sweetie, i to had my daugter very young...younger then u actully, and yes it will be hard to tell everyone but i promise u after u do u will feel alot better, and have everyone u love there to support you....espiecially ur baby dad, and im not gunna lie to u ignorant people will say ignorant things to u but u must be strong and prove them wrong, yes your life will change forever but believe me that when you look in your babies eyes it will all be worth it.....so i hope u make the right decision and wish u the best of luck :P

Answer 11

Don't be afraid to tell your boyfriend and your parents. I wouldn't carry this burden alone :(

Your parents will love you no matter what. If you're concerned still about that or still think they won't, tell another friend? What about a grandparent or a friend's mom?



Also, if this is your boyfriend's baby as well, he needs to know because he is half responsible! You're not alone in this and you shouldn't be.

Tell somebody!!



Look for a Pregnancy Care Center in your area. They can help too :)

http://www.pccchoices.com/

Answer 12

Well you should have known there still coupld be a possablility that you could still et pregnant i am 16 and i am 28 weeks pregnant and when i got pregnant i was on birthcontrol but u no i hav relized i have to mature and grow up fast I no I made a mistake but i am dealign with it i am keeping my little girl and my boyfriend is 18 he works has his g.e.d and same with me so we can and will make it no matter what !! it is just what is best for you honey !

Answer 13

Tell your parent's they well under stand. they well punish you but you shouldn't be having sex at that age. it well only get worse when they find out in other ways. they well find out.



1. they well notice the bulge

2. you need aproval from your parent's to abort the hospital wont do it otherwise

3. if you do get away with aborting the hospital well contact your parents any way.

4. it goes on your penament record.

Answer 14

first off you need to tell your parent and your man have you thought of your options abortion adoption theres alot of people that want kids or keep it watever you do you need to see a doc and get prenatle care soon i understand how hard it is im 15 w/ 4 kids under 2 and it rough but i deal if you need to talk email me even if you dont want to tell your parents see a doctor

Answer 15

I am fifteen and have a month old daughter. My parents got mad at me when I first told them, but they will eventually get over it. The best thing that you can do is tell them the truth before they find out on their own.

Answer 16

talk to it about your parents and BF and if any gets mad just shout UH OH! I FEEL IT COMING OUT! even if your 20 seconds pregnant they'll fall for it.



and you don't have to have sex just when you hit 16 im 19 and still a virgin

Answer 17

talk to your parents. Yes they will be upset and possibly not want to talk to you, but they will help you. You are their child and they would prefer you get the best medical treatment you can get while you are pregnant. Explain to them that you tried to be safe, but things just happen for a reason. If you talk to them maturely they will take you seriously and be more comforting to you during this time.

You also need to tell your boyfriend. He needs to know, and you never know what he'll say unless you tell him.

Answer 18

Stay strong it will work out for the best. My suggestion is do the souljah boy and then tell ur parents you will feel alot of releif..

Answer 19

tell him as he will be best for support, your parents will go mad to start with but love you and want the best for you so they will help you make important decisions.. you need someone there for you.. contact your doctor aswell to get checked out and talk over your options...xx

Answer 20

Well when was your last period? Cause I know some people who took 5 test all pos and they werent preg Me I took one and it was pos I am due N e time now here is my email if you have n e questions ok [e-mail] ok

Answer 21

Okay the only thing you can do is tell your parents. Tell them you used protection. At least you tried...

Answer 22

you must tell your parents who will help you other than your parents?

parents love to children are in infinite they will shower you with all the love even if your boy friend leaves you.

Answer 23

i agree. you have to tell all of them, they are there for you, i can tell you now your parents are going to be hurt, mad and sad all at the same time but everything will be fine,like i said they are there for you.

Answer 24

ok..heres my advise...first of all, u should have nva ogt pregnant in the first place. that was a stupid mistake. good job. sec. tell ur boyfriend. cause if he really loves u, he will stay with u through this hard time. and if he doesnt...it means he was just in it for the sex prolly. and maybe when u get the courage to tell ur parents, dont ge t mad, cause thta will upset u evan more and ull fell very regretful and trust me...u dont want to cause it makes u feel lyk crap. so yeahh...thats my advise.

Answer 25

Tell your boyfriend, the both of you are too young to have a kid, hopefully he can help you get an abortion.

Answer 26

you should keep the baby... no matter how hard it is....

you'll regret giving it up or aborting if you do.



also you did the deed, you should have to live with the consequences.... if you think your mature enough to have sex,

you should try to be mature enough to raise a child that you made...



and don't think I'm some old hag ragging on your *** either...



I'm 16 and 35 weeks pregnant and i wouldn't change it for anything in the whole world!!

i love my daughter and i don't regret anything!!

Answer 27

sweety, you need to talk about your options, if you want to you can put the baby for adoption, but do not abort!

Answer 28

you need to tell them all they all deserve to know, and everything will be okay i promise