I'm 23years old, have recently found out I'm pregnant...?

Question

I have known this lad for 2years get on really well, he has got a child and engaged to his partner of 5years. Ever since ive known him he hasn't been happy saying she is nasty to him etc. I was his shoulder and gave him advice ... I stupidly slept with him and now am 5weeks pregnant with his child. What makes its worse is I am being bullied at work by some girls which saw him leave my flat and told everyone at work. We have denied all accusations due to his situation. I can't tell him he's the father without everyone knowing. He has recently split with his partner as they were having fights. I don't want to tell my family that it was a 1 nite thing etc ... Should I lie and say it was a man I was seeing but he wants nothing to do with the child ... ?? Please can I have suggestions as want to love this child as best I can without horrid girls at work etc bringing me down when i get bigger during pregnancy.

Thank you for reading this

Lara x

Answer 1

You shouldn't have the baby without the father knowing it is unfair on him and the baby. Lieing will make everything worse and you will have to tell the truth at some point. either tell the father and your family the truth or not have the baby at all - its people like you that will end up on jeromy kyle

Answer 2

You do NOT need the stress being pregnant, those girls must be beyond immature. I am 16 and have a child (yes I know, think anything you want)...and I would NEVER get involved in someones business and especially if they were pregnant. But I beg you..do not take the babies dad from him/her, that is so horrible, a child wants love from both parents. I got pregnant 1 month into seeing my boyfriend..and I really didn't think it would work, but now we have our baby boy and have been together a yr and a half and love each other more and more each day. Also if you do not stay with him, he should pay child support to help you out. Babies are so expensive! You will have to take 6 weeks or so off work when babies here and you may need to go on bedrest, pregnant, someone needs to be there for you. You have sooooooo much a head of you, don't hurt yourself. Keep in touch with the babies dad. Everything will work out fine

Answer 3

Time to grow up and take responsibility, you both do. If those "horrid" girls at work are going to bring you down then you will just have to weather the storm and get on with things.

If he has split with his partner then you can be together and whatever anyone says, its really none of their business is it.

As for your parents, well you are old enough now to make your own decisions, if you are living at home still then you might have to consider moving out since having a baby could cause complications there. You dont have to tell your parents who you are sleeping with surely, so whoever the father is is nothing to do with them.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

OMGosh! An abortion is NOT the Answer!



I'm sorry, but people say and do things that we cannot control. I'm also sorry that those girls are being so nasty to you. You don't need that stress especially while pregnant. I would recommend looking for a job change. Wither you admit that your friend is the father or say it's another guy, they obviously have it out for you and are not going to stop regardless of your answer of who the father is.



I would also recommend telling your friend that he is the father. If you are as good of friends as you say, and you were "his shoulder to cry on" then he should be there for you. He also should know that he is the Father. Whither he takes accountability or not, you need to let him make that choice.



Only YOU can decide how to raise your child. If you want to love it and care for it then do it. There will Always be someone or something bringing you down, at times even yourself or your child will bring you down. You Just Need To Stay Strong.



I wouldn't lie. Lying just increase stress and then what would you tell your baby when they inquire who their father is someday?



Try to switch jobs

Tell the guy ... and then take the next step based on his reaction.



Remember, "NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT"



Best of Luck to YOU & YOUR BUNDLE of JOY

Answer 5

Id just tell your family the truth, yeah theyll be shocked at first but theyll get over it. Dont tell him if you dont want to its your baby just make sure if you dont tell him you wont wanna turn around and file for child support or spring it on him when the babys a few months old if your not gonna tell him your guna have to stick to it!

As for the girls at work tell them to shut their traps its nothing to do with them, maybe if the lad at work has split with his gf you two could give it a go :S ??

xx

Answer 6

Do not keep this away from him because you will have guilty conscience forever. You should tell him b/c it's his child and yours. If you are not ready to have a kid, then I suggest that you either give it up for adoption or get an abortion. It's your choice.

Answer 7

get an abortion.