Would you be offended if your boyfriend asked you for a DNA test to please his mother?

Question

Apparently my boyfriend's mother made a comment about wanting to know for sure that the baby is his. That part doesn't offend me as much, because she has brought it up directly to me a few days later, and I know her well enough to know that she thinks the worst of everyone and its nothing personal. The part the offends me is that my boyfriend actually wanted me to do it, but not because he didn't trust me (he told me that if that was the case he would have asked me about it 4 months ago when we first found out I was pregnant), but because he is a momma's boy and wants me to do it to make her happy.

We are a biracial couple and he is worried that if the baby looks more white than asian than his mother will not like me anymore. I will probably do it just so I don't have to deal with his mom being nasty to me about it, but would you be offended if you were asked to do a DNA test when you know you were 100% faithful and have never given a reason not to be trusted?

Answer 1

I'm in a pretty similar situation, my partner's mother wants a DNA test and I am 100% its my partner's baby. At first I was extrememly offended and hurt that she would think I was manipulative like that and a liar considering there is so many different ways nowadays to prove the paternity of the baby. But I am going through with it just to shut her up and so if in the future anyone questions it, myself, bubby and partner can all just easily shut them up; even though there truly is nothing to worry about.



But yes you have a reason to be offended, but just make her believe its not getting to you because then she'll start to feel stupid (thats what I did). Get it done, and then its over with for life. :)

Answer 2

I don't think I would be offended. I would just do it. I know a guy who took care of his daughter for 17 years and then found out that she was never his. It broke his heart. So I guess with all the horror stories going around, if he wanted the satisfaction of a test (and paid for it) I'd do it. IF I was 100% faithful I wouldn't worry about it, and then be able to be like told you so. I guess I wouldn't be offended.

Answer 3

Honestly? I wouldn't be offended if I knew she thought the worst of everything. And I would do it - for my boyfriend, my baby and myself. If she is told that there's no way she can possibly doubt her relation to the baby, she is more likely to accept it even if it does look "more white than Asian" and this will probably clear up tension between her and her son, and maybe even her and you.

Answer 4

If you have nothing to hide, than you should not be offended.



A lot of men have been duped into being the father of children who are actually not theirs. Those men have been duped by women whom they loved and trusted. I am sure your boyfriend love and trust you, but that does not mean you would not dupe him. I do not know you -- neither does your boyfriend's mother.



ALL men, regardless of how much they love and trust their mates, should have at least a little doubt about their children. Otherwise, we would not have so many "duped dad" cases.

Answer 5

Yes i would be offended. The same thing happened to me except i've never even met my boyfriends mom! She lives in a different country and she didnt even call him til i was 7 months and the first thing she said was "are you sure its yours?" It pissed me off, especially since she doesnt even know me. But i dont think you should take a DNA test just for her. If your bf was having trust issues it'd be a different story.

Answer 6

I would be offended yes. I'd still do it to rub it in her face, but I would be offended. It's not really her business, and if he isn't worried he should have said something to his mom about it.

Answer 7

I would be offended, because it's honestly none of her business. I would probably do it, but make her pay for it, since she's the one who wants it done. If she says she won't pay for it, tell her you won't do it. easy peasy :)

Answer 8

If I had nothing to hide I wouldn't worry.



And actually it is her business. Wouldn’t you want confirmation that your grandchild was really yours and not someone else’s? If you have nothing to hide, you wouldn’t worry.

Answer 9

it is none of his mother's business. who is he in an intimate relationship with, you or his mother ?? you move out of your parents house to make a life of your own and start your own family. if she is trying to interfer in your life, he needs to tell her that it is none of her business.

Answer 10

Yeah I would be offened