19 and pregnant,is it possible to be happy?

Question

im 19 and pregnant to my long term boyfriend,i'll be 20 when the babys born. all ive been hearing is how the guys always leave,i'll be a single misrable mother,is it possible to actually be happy?

Answer 1

Of course it is possible to be happy. I just answered your other question and you have so much potential and sound like you have an excellent head on your shoulders! Your boyfriend also sounds like a great guy and I highly doubt he will leave you.. You can do it and if you do end up single, you can still do it, many women do but you are lucky and have someone there to help you. Just don't drive him away.. He is probably scared but he has to be somewhat happy too. You two are going to be great parents. Good luck! My husband and I are only 20 and got the same grief early on but they hear how he and I talk about our baby girl and now they have nothing to say except Im so happy for you. Good luck!

Answer 2

Yes it is very possible to be happy. If your partner is willing to help you and you have a great support system, you have nothing to worry about and you shouldn't be listening to people's negative advice. If I had listened when I was in your shoes, I wouldn't have married the man of my dreams, had two more children and live in a great house! My husband supports us and loves us all and would never think of leaving. I was 18 when I got pregnant (had him at 19) with my first and we've been together ever since.



Don't automatically assume he's going to leave you, because he could be the best thing you have! Just try to relax, enjoy what you can of your pregnancy and realize you're going to have a beautiful, healthy baby in a few months! Negativity will only give you cramps, backaches, headaches and nausea. You don't need that on top of your normal pregnancy ailments! Try to look on the bright side and things will fall into place!



Good luck!!

Answer 3

look.. i was 17 when i got pregnant and 18 when i had my baby girl..and her daddy was 21 and 22, my entire family thought that he would leave me and always said negative stuff and so did alot of other people since we were so young, but its been a year in oct since i had my baby and my fiance (baby's daddy) is still with me and we have had fights but we made it. Not saying your guy will be the same but i wanted to give you a little piece that some guys dont run from what they do..and Yes my mom was a single mother of 3 at a young age and she was happy and actually found someone else and have been married for about 2 years and been toeghter for about 7 or 8...goodluck

Answer 4

If the babys daddy is still there so far be happy for that. Dont sit and worry and be unhappy about the future. You cant predict it. Just take life as it hits you. And remember its the tough crap that makes us young mothers stronger. I had my first baby when I was 15, and not to say it was a good choice, but I took on my responsability and have made the best of it. And just to prove not all men are the same, Im with the same guy I had my first son with, weve been together for over 6 years. Im happier than most women are. I wish you the best luck and remember keep your head up and be happy for the sake of yourself and your baby.

Answer 5

Its definately possible to be happy. Im 19 and 22 weeks pregnant, i couldnt be happier. Im engaged to an amazing guy, and i know hes there to stick it out with me. All i can say is if your boyfriend does decide to leave, hes the one thats missing out big time. Age has nothing to do with how good of a parent you are, and just because your both young, it does not mean he wont be there for you and the baby. That baby will be the most amazing thing that ever happens to you and him. Good Luck im sure you guys will be fine.

Answer 6

not all single mothers are unhappy! Lots of single mothers have wonderful beautiful lives. You do not need a man to be happy. I understand it is important to have two parents and having a partner can be comforting and has lots of advantages but women have been making it work since the beginning of time.



Your circumstances do not dictate the way we handle our circumstances. If he leaves, you will find a way to be okay. You are going to have a baby that will need you and will love you, and you will love them more that you can imagine.



Your life can be as good or as bad as you make it. Maybe you should discuss your fears with your boyfriend and find out how committed he is to the new life you are both about to have.

Answer 7

Yes, it is possible. Some guys end up being great dads. A lot of the situation depends on the love he got as a child, and sometimes, the need for it if a parent left. Good luck, and work on making each other happy, because if the 2 of you aren't happy, the baby won't be either.

Answer 8

Sorry but statistically, the guys usually do leave. The child alone, should make you happy. You created this new life and so now it is up to you to nurture, guide, and love your baby with all of your heart. Absolutely, you CAN be happy! I was not quite as young. I was 21 when my son was born and 23 when I had my daughter. They were 4 and 6 years old when their father took his own life. It was such a loss and an immense tragedy but we forged ahead and had a wonderful life! They are now 31 and 33 years old.

Blessings and Peace Out!

Answer 9

Don't listen to what other people say!! As long as you are happy then that's all that matters. If you truly believe your boyfriend loves you then why would comments like these even bother you? I am 19 and 15 weeks pregnant and I know that when I start to show people will make comments etc but as long as I am happy and I know whats true then I don't really care. I am going to be a fantastic mother and so are you. Oh and by the way - If the worst were to happen then you would cross that bridge when you come to it. Don't stress of the small stuff.

Answer 10

Yes, I'm a 20 year old single mother to a wonderful 1 year old little boy. It did not work with his father and i kicked him to the curb, I dont get child support and he has never seen my son. I am very happy, I look at my son and cry because he makes me so happy. I dont need anything else. I do however work my ass off to make ends meet, but i love my job. You can be happy!

Answer 11

they dont always leave my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years we have a 15 month old son and another on the way.... its very possible to be happy...(im 19 and will be 20 when baby #2 comes)

Answer 12

im 19, ill be 20 when my son is born and ive been with my bf for 6 going on 7 years and i know things will be hard but its possible. we have a great support system and we are just going to have to work 10x harder then everyone else. i had the same fears that you had but im confident in my boyfriend, myself and my family that we can make this work.

Answer 13

absolutely! I was 20 when I got pregnant, and am now 21 and due in December. Just about a year older than you so I know how overwhelming it can be! It was shocking at first, and we (boyfriend and I) still worry about how to make it all work...but we're both very happy. It's exciting to realize you'll be someone's "mommy" and my boyfriend is thrilled to get to be the "fun" dad. We're having a boy so he already has ALLLL sorts of plans, lol.

Answer 14

I was 18 and he was 21 when our first was born. We were already married before the pregnancy, we were on our honeymoon lol. Anyway, it has been 8 years and 4 children later, he hasn't left. In all honesty I wish he would at times. Marriages and children at a young age are more difficult. We have made it work for a long time, but people change (especially if they were still a child in the beginning).

Answer 15

my friend had a baby at 19 and the guy left her before the baby came. He wasn't around much though his parents were always happy to take the baby on the weekend. They negotiated a visitation plan and money amoungst themselves initially.. it worked for a while.. he sees his child once and a while but he's moved across the country but he has to send money now because they went to court. But that being said and done my friend is happy.. had another baby with a different guy.. he's gone too but she's still happy.. she was set to marry and he left her.. but she's still happy.. she's happy because she wants to be.. she has family and friends to support her and she chooses to be optimistic. She finished college, has a job that pays the bills and rents a townhouse.. it's not glamorous but yet she's still happy.. it's a choice.

Answer 16

lol Yes it is. The guys don't always leave. Even if you two don't work out, that doesn't mean that he can't still be a good father to his child. How does he feel about it at the moment? Besides kinda scared.



While being a single mother is tough, I'm pretty sure that the majority of them are not miserable. I know plenty of single moms who are quite happy with their children, themselves and their lives....including myself. Sometimes we are sleeping on our feet, but we are happy a good portion of the time.



Chin up, babes. You will be fine.

Answer 17

don't worry about what people say. yes, the guy tends to leave in most teen pregnant cases, but don't even look into that. what you should really focus on is how this baby will be a healthy, beautiful, loving, child who you will love. please promise to yourself even though being pregnant may not always be the greatest thing ever, your child will be close and dear to you forever =] give him/her the best life it can live because even positive things can come out of the negative. good luck, and the best the to you ! <3

Answer 18

I was 18 when I got pregnant with my son, turned 19 in March and he was born in July. My now husband then boyfriend was only 21, 22 when our son was born. We are happy but I will tell you it is a big struggle, especially in today's world where having a college degree is everything.



My mom was just barley 18 when she had me, she wasn't misserable, she just dated till just after she had my brother then got married.



Just because you have a baby doesn't' mean that you will always be single, nor miserable.

Answer 19

Of course you can be happy, although you know your life will being to become more and more difficult, there is a lot to look forward to in having a child. Whatever happens in the future God will be there for you. Its hard to do the but try to take it as a blessing. I knew a guy once that had Brain Cancer TWICE and the second time before surgery he said to me "Thank God for this cancer", why you might ask, because every obstacle in our lives is there for a reason, it makes you a Much stronger person than before. Im sure you will be A Okay. God bless, take care...

Answer 20

I was 19 when I had my daughter, and now I am 21, with a 13 month old, and 32 weeks pregnant, and for the most part I am happy, so yes it is possible. Good luck and congratulations, I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 21

yes! My sister got pregnant when she was about your age. She wasnt even dating the guy -- it was a one night stand that well certainly lasted longer than one night. He really made the effort to stay by her as it was half his fault. Anyway they actually fell in love and got married a couple months after the baby was born. That was 4 years ago and they are still really happy and loving life. It is always possible to get that "happily ever after" even and most espically when it seems the least possible.

Dont give up on him!

Answer 22

It is only possible to be happy if you allow yourself to be happy. Only you can make that choice as to whether or not you will be happy. I am 18 and married since 17, for a year, and expecting our first child and we are poorer than dirt (Im not kidding lol) but we are thrilled to death about our little angel, even though both sides of the family could care less about the baby and tell me all the time that the baby is still young at 18 weeks and say "It could still die" like they want my child to die.



Dont listen to them- life is what you make of it, and if you love this baby and your bf, then tell the rest of the world to go screw and be happy!! You dont need to listen to their crap- its bad for you and the baby. I hear a lot of junk from my family as well, both sides. I swear everybody wants me to miscarry, but I dont care. I love my baby, and my husband and I are so excited about our little miracle, we could care less what everyone else thinks.



If you want to be happy, then drown the world out and focus on that little angel growing inside of you- is that doesnt make you smile, nothing will.

Answer 23

I was pregnant at 20 and barely turned 21 when I had my son. It is very possible to be happy. I still am and we are now pregnant with our 4th. If you keep hearing that maybe you are surrounding yourself with people in bad relationships and they aren't being very supportive. I wouldn't talk to much to them anymore it's not going to help.

Answer 24

of course you'll be happy. You will have a brand new baby.



Not all babies fathers leave. I had my daughter at 19, and we've been together 8 years.. my daughter's 4 now...



Just live life to the fullest, and don't take it all at one, live day by day.

Answer 25

I was 19 and pregnant and thought i would be with him forever... well that was not the case,,, but after having a baby you know exactly what to do and you don't need him if he is not going to be there for you.

I am perfectly happy with just me and my son. So if it happens it happens but you just do whats best for you and your child, and every thing will fall into place!!

Answer 26

Oh yeah, it's possible! The guy does NOT always leave, either. Some guys are so better than that. You're gonna be a Mommy! Of course it's possible to be happy.

Answer 27

It's posible but it takes a whole lot more than most young people have to do it.

Mom at 17.

In times of a good economy, as far as sociology and evolutionary theory goes,

the men usually leave.

This is beacuse as long as there's food and shelter, a man will move on to spread his seed elsewhere.

Only in times of a deep, huge economic depression do men stick around to raise kids.

Answer 28

Yes it sure is! My friend is 19, just had a baby and her boyfriend proposed AFTER the child was born! I have a few young friends with babies that the guy actually helped out and stayed!



So it all depends on who the guy is :) good luck. xx

Answer 29

Yes it is possible. You'll both have to work hard to make it worth, but it is so worth it if you can. Then you just have to realize that even if he doesn't stick around, you can still give your child a good life, as long as you make good choices. Life is a series of choices.

Answer 30

It is possible to be happy but you must want to be happy and act upon that wish. Having premarital sex is not the correct start, but it doesn't mean that you are too late just need to use better judgment. Have you ever thought of studying the bible?? That could help.

Answer 31

When you hold that baby for the first time, it won't matter if your boyfriend stays or goes. The baby will consume all the love you have to offer.



Please breast feed to really bond with your baby. It is so very important.

Answer 32

That's no attitude to have! It is very possible to be happy! After all, You're going to have a baby! The smartest thing to do would be to get married, But it's whatever you can do. Make sure your boyfriend knows that it's his baby also, and he is gonna take care of him/her too! You won't be miserable. Babies are fun and life changing! Be optimistic. You'll do great!

Answer 33

I know 3 single mothers and they are happy women, also i am going to be a single mother and i am happy,



You don't need a man to be happy. Find hapiness in yourself first.

Answer 34

yeah, the baby is ALL yours, its up to YOU to take care of BABY regardless of WHOEVER the daddy is, fock the dude over if he doesn't want to take care of BABY with you, its a new life with you and BABY. put him on child support for FKOCing you and leaving you if so...



a friend of mines had a similar situation, and well, she's doing fine, i kicked the dudes ass and pulled his shoulder off a while after baby was born for being a deadbeat dad and leaving her. but she's fine now, it was a struggle but her son is learning and living well without the father.

Answer 35

I am 17 and 9 weeks pregnant. I feel happy and worry free! My man is very supportive!

It depends. Is he happy?

Answer 36

Yes Be Happy!

Answer 37

YOU should have used protection! both of you! now you are in a pickle!

he might get scared and leave you!

Answer 38

Of course its possible. If the two of you work hard to make the relationship work and actually WANT it to work, then you can do it.

Answer 39

yes as long as you both are happy with the pregnancy and he is a good man you should be fine dicuss your feelings with him so he knows how you are feeling and can reassure you.

Answer 40

sure it is. my husband is turning 21 tomorrow and we have three kids and possibly one on the way. my first is not his and i am older then he is by 5 years. my oldest father left me and i was 15 then. you can have a full healthy relationship as long as you have a bond and communication. that is how you make it work.

Answer 41

The seconed that baby is born you are going to be the happiest person alive.

I promis you.

All your going to want to do it spend time with him/her.



You'll be happy. :]



Good luck sweetie!

Answer 42

Well all i can say is if you would've waited until your married, you would be alot happier!

I mean think about it!

It could've been your boyfriend!

but i would understand a guy that wouldnt want that pressure.

I mean i dont think it would be right for him just to leave you i hope he doesnt!

But im sorry i can understand why if he did :/

Answer 43

Yes its possible because you have a miracle on the way!!!!







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Answer 44

think of the baby. raise it well. talk to your boyfriend

Answer 45

theres 14 and 15 year old pregnant girls in my school. youll be fine ^_^.

Answer 46

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qO0d luck sweetie !

Answer 47

if you get an abortion...yes









basics for being a successful parent:

be older than 21 (25 is ideal)

be married

both have careers

both have degrees

both have cars

both have at least $5,000 in savings

Answer 48

yes it is!

Answer 49

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