How do I refuse a baby shower from a woman that I don't like??

Question

I am 21 weeks pregnant. The woman wanting to throw me a baby shower with my mamaw is someone I can't stand! I can't stand to be around her or even talk to her. This woman ruin my bridal shower, and then my wedding. I have dealt with this woman long enough in my life, and she's not even family. No one really likes her. She likes to make herself known! I love my mamaw to death and love to have a baby shower from her but I just don't want the woman involved at all!! What do I do? I still want a baby shower, but I clueless what to do. How do I tell the woman no without upsetting my mamaw??

Answer 1

well i would suggest telling a friend or someone else to throw you a shower... dont tell the lady invite your mamaw... and then after that just call the lady up tell her.. " im really sorry i was just surprised with a baby shower the other day.. i dont think there is need for another one.. BUT.. we can have a little get together if you would like.. "..... that way your mamaw dont feel bad about it...



good luck

Answer 2

Have a friend plan a shower instead and tell your mamaw that your friend is doing it and that she would be happy for her (mamaw) to pitch in. Then when the woman mentions throwing a shower your mamaw can tell her you are already having one. Or you could call her and tell her how sweet it is that she wants to throw a shower but that your friend already has one planned. Also. I have only heard of showers being thrown around 7-8 mo. pregnant so maybe you have some time to manuever. Good Luck

Answer 3

One of the great things about being a mom is how it forces you to speak up, even when it's uncomfortable, even when it upsets other people.



Start practicing now. Tell Mamaw your feelings. If this woman really 'ruined' your bridal shower and wedding, why would mamaw even want here there? Are they lovers?

Answer 4

Talk to you mamaw and tell her how you feel. She should understand and then ou can discuss how you should both tell her if she is involved in the planning. If she is not involved with the planning then just don't give her an invite. If she has already been invited or something just be honest otherwise you will be miserable for your whole shower and there is no reason to let some one do that to you on the most inportant days of your life. Or ignore her at the sower and just be glad for what she will give you

Answer 5

Tell her that you're very sorry, but your sister/cousin/best friend/etc. is already planning to throw you a baby shower. Tell your Mamaw that they're very eager for her to help, but they don't want the woman you don't like to help.



Or wait until the baby is born and then throw your own shower. This is happening more and more. It's also a great chance to let everyone "meet" the baby.

Answer 6

Tell you mamaw you don't want this shower thrown by this woman, i'm sure she'll understand. Or just tell the woman you have someone already throwing you one. Just make something up if you can't come right out and say you don't want her doing it.

Answer 7

I ran into this same problem when I was pregnant. A lady wanted - no...insisted, that I let her throw me a shower. I kept telling her no, that was ok, but she persisted. She even went behind my back and got my mother involved. She is very pushy, nosey, and a gossip. I know for a fact that she talks about me and my husband - she talks about EVERYONE. My Mom said to just let her do it because she had mentioned it to some other people and they wanted to help (and I liked these people.) I let her do the shower, and I found out that I hardly had to talk to her at all because I was so busy talking to guests and opening gifts. If she came near me I would go talk to someone else or go open more gifts.

Your lady is probably alot like my lady - I think they like to show off and they think it makes them look good to other people. I realized the shower was 2 hours out of my life and I would never have to do it again, and just getting it over with was easier and than ruffling feathers and having to hear about it for the rest of my life.

To make matters worse, I worked with her husband, who is a very sweet person. How he ended up with her is beyond me. So I had to consider his feelings to. But if you are dead set against this woman participating in your shower, that I think it would be best to just skip a shower altogether. Remember - you won't just be causing tension between you and her, but probably between her and the rest of your family. And she sounds like the type that will bad mouth in a heartbeat. PS - You can call your grandma whatever you want!!!

Answer 8

Well, the only way is to just tell the woman straight out, unless you have her mamaw talk to her. Either way, it's hard to keep it a secret.

Answer 9

first, if you are pregnant with your own child, you are too old to be calling your grandmother "mamaw" - stop that right now!



second - be very straight forward with your grandmother. tell her in no uncertain terms that you do not like this person, and don't even want her at the shower, much less as one of the hostesses. if your grandmother is allowing this person to participate in throwing the shower, ask if it is for financial reasons... if it is, then thank your grandmother for wanting to do this for you, and have someone else do the shower - that way, your grandmother's friend (and i'm assuming that is the relationship, since she wants to go in on the shower with your grandmother) can't be involved, and doesn't have to be invited.

Answer 10

talk to your mom. tell her you want a baby shower given by her only, and that you dont like the other person. how is she involved in your family if shes not family? is it a family friend?

it is a hard situation, but id just talk to your mom and explain that you feel she ruined your bridal shower and wedding and you dont want the same thing to happen for your baby shower

Answer 11

tell your mamaw that u dont want that woman there and to throw u one with someone else... and not invite her and make sure she doesnt find out.. its YOUR day not hers... dont let her ruin it!!

that woman is probably just jealous of you...

Answer 12

well what i did for my last shower.. i told everyone i was doing it myself.. because of past showers that werent that great ... so you could tell you mamaw that your gonna say that to prevent that girl from helping but tell your mamaw that she can still help you...

Answer 13

Why does your ma maw have her helping her? If this woman ruined your bridal shower and wedding? What's wrong here...tell your ma maw how you feel.

Answer 14

See if you can get a sister or someone to throw it for you instead - and then just tell her "no thanks, my sister has already claimed dibbs on throwing one for me."