How will my relationship change?

Question

I m 18 years old and I may be pregnant. We re taking the tests tomorrow. I never missed a pill but I did recently switch pills to a lower dosage even though I requested a higher dosage. So I suppose I have 2 questions: How will my relationship with my longterm boyfriend/fiance if I am pregnant change, and can I sue for medical malpractice if I got pregnant because the doctor put me on the wrong pill?

Answer 1

Ok, so you think that you might be pregnant, what makes you think that your pregnant? You did not suggest anything that would make a person think that they are pregnant. Normally questions of this nature start out with why they think that they could be pregnant, but you dont. Second, you wanted a higher dose of oral contraceptives but the doctor gave you a lower dose. Why would you want a higher dose oral contraceptive? The previous prescription was working, so why would you want a higher dose? No one ever wants a higher dose, so why would you want a higher dose? That just means more potential side effects. You did not say which oral contraceptive that you were on or the one that you were changed too. Most people in this category, ask if their brand is effective? However you did not. That also leads into the dosing concept. A lower dose can sometimes mean that you don't have an inactive pill set which leads to amenorhea(lack of a menstral cycle), which some women use to delay their period to only 4 times a year. Is this what you were given?



So, how will your relationship change? It will turn out in one of many ways. First the stress of you potentially being pregnant will cause him to either stay or run. It creates an issue of trust, or lack there of. Since your defensive and wanting to sue, I would assume that your relationship will parallel the trust that you have in your doctor, and your prescription. So the odds of a long term relationship are probably low. If he is like you, he may be looking for an exit. He can not leave you right now if your pregnant, but if your not, the idea has already been planted. If your pregnant, he will have to wait because it is the right thing to do. Wait until you hormones go crazy then dump you for "your issues" I assume that he is your age, and not someone who is robbing the cradle.



Can you sue for mal practice? Well you can sue, but the defense is in the clinical studies required in order to put the oral contraceptive on the market. There are always studies about how many tablets you have to miss in order for someone to get pregnant. All of that is outlined in the package insert. So if you have taken them as prescribe, and if you do, then there will be no failure. If you have taken them as directed, your not pregnant. In any event, his lawyer will have to suggest that you did not follow the directions and thus got pregnant because you did not follow the directions. So you will loose this case because you can not prove the positive(which is perfect use). You will have to pay for your own lawyer which will be very expensive. Since your 18, you don't have that type of money to sustain a case like this, which will loose.



The last prediction. If you took the tablets as prescribed by your doctor, and followed the package insert for use, then you are not pregnant. However, you may have damaged the trust with your boyfriend. Good luck with your outcome.

Answer 2

I dont understand why people quickly jump to the thought "can i sue for this".



You switched pills. You are also in charge of ensuring you are taking the right things. If you knew it was a lower dose, it was your responsibility to question it and to see if it needed to be changed. Did you ask about needing to use a condom during the change of birth control pills?



Birth Control never claims to prevent pregnancy 100%. Even if you take it correctly there is always that very slim chance of failure. You could be that 1%.



You dont even know if you are pregnant and you are jumping to "can i sue". Your period is late? Maybe it's just the change in birth control that has changed your period. Some birth control make periods lighter, even skip periods.



Are you going to think maybe i could sue the birth control manufacturer because my birth control failed?



Sorry, i dont mean to be rude, but you are jumping to 'can i sue' and you dont even know if you are pregnant. Failures happen in life and you should've been aware that birth control does not prevent pregnancy 100% and if pregnancy was not wanted, then a condom should've been used.



Take a test and go from there. If you are not pregnant, it could just be the change in birth control pills. If you know for sure they are lower dose, then go to the doctor and question it. Most birth control, even low dose that can be used to treat acne will still prevent pregnancy adequately (apart from normal failure rate).



Before jumping to conclusions, find out if you are or are not pregnant first. Then go from there. How will your relationship change? The relationship will be how you and he make it. It is you guys that are in the relationship, it is both of you that decide how the relationship goes. How relationships change when it comes to pregnancy and children, depends on the couple themselves.



Edit to add re your updates:

Your mother made you change --> this is no fault of your doctor.

You need to talk to your mother, why she made you change and why she said your previous one wasn't working. Finding out why she thought that. Did you say things that made her believe this, did you have side effects etc. You have only been on the new birth control for 2 months now. The change can affect your cycle/period, its common. Birth control after all contain hormones which alter your body and may disrupt your normal cycles for a short time. Even if the birth control does not cease periods, it can still alter your cycle for a short time whilst your body adjusts. Your other symptoms could also be caused by the change in birth control and your hormones. But if the symptoms/side effects continue, then you may need to change your birth control as this one may not be for you. If you have researched and found that it is lower and has a higher failure rate, talk to your mother and explain your concerns, also use condoms also as an added protection. It seems weird that your mother would want to change your birth control for no 'real' reason.



Talk to your mother, take a pregnancy test and go from there.

Answer 3

It is unlikely that you are pregnant.You can't sue the doctor because they never said the pill would 100% protect you.If your boyfriend really loves you your relationship won't have troubles.You are still youngish.People change a lot during this age so don't think you will be together forever.

Answer 4

If he's really your fiancé then your relationship will not change. You both should know that the only form of birth control that's 100% effective against pregnancy is abstinence.. No you cannot sue.