How do you handle reactions to sex of baby? And other questions.?

Question

I have 3 wonderful girls ages 8, 5, and 3. We had been trying for our last child (always wanted 4), for over a year when finally I was pregnant. We went to the ultrasound and the baby looks good. Everything within normal range except the size measured almost 2 weeks ahead of schedule. That seemed odd since we were using an ovulation kit. Does that mean it is going to be a big baby, or does the dr. usually move up the date? They were the ones to tell me to use a kit since it had taken so long and they were going to do other tests. I don't see the dr. until next week.
Well, the tech. asked if we wanted to know the sex. We said sure even though we were positive it was a girl. I mean odd were it was going to be a girl. Turns out it is a boy. Now everyone reacts as if we can finally stop since it is a boy. We really didn't care if it was a boy, but now everyone is making such a big deal about it, much more than when I was having my second or third. Do we stop telling people?

Answer 1

I find that a bit rude of people to be honest.

A healthy 4th baby was what you wanted & looks like you are getting.

The fact that he happens to be a boy was a 50/50 lucky shot.



You never "have" to tell someone the sex before the baby is born, nor should you feel obligated to.

As long as your immediate family is happy that is all that matters.

Answer 2

I have two boys so everyone WANTS this one to be a girl, I honestly want another boy but a healthy baby is what I care about. My family will spoil either way but make a big fuss if it is a girl because there aren't any girls close to home. My cousin lives 150 miles away with his little girl and my step brothers little girl is with her mom somewhere and we don't get to see her hardly at all. The main point would probably be severe spoiling. If I get tired of hearing something I do ask for it to be dropped. Can't we be happy the baby is healthy is all I really ask. It seems like disappointment but it isn't. They are just happy in their own way. With being pregnant I get really moody so normally friends and family don't push me too far if they see I had enough. Good Luck hun and congrats on your healthy baby. Looks like your girls may take over baby brother though. (smiles) My boys want a girl this time, their reasoning; So if we do something wrong it's not her fault mom, I died laughing from that comment. My boys are 7 and 9.

Answer 3

I think people are acting that way because you are having four. To some people, that's a lot. Don't stop telling people though (if you don't want to). Just put them in their place and tell them you want thirteen. I'm kidding. Just explain to them that nature saw fit to work it out this way.



I never used an ovulation kit, but it's not unusual for docs to move up the date. I think that is a little unusual that late in pregnancy. It could also mean that the baby will be big. I did have a medical person tell me that all babies grow at the same rate up to 20 weeks and after that is when they start to grow at different rates. I don't know how true that is, but if she's right, your dates must be wrong. I can't explain how though.

Answer 4

Tell people that you're so excited to be pregnant that you don't care what you have, as long as it's not puppies! Honestly, people can be so nosy and intrusive, you have to take it with a grain of salt, and definitely put them in their place. Make sure you give your girls extra attention when you can, because some people are still all about the "boys are the only ones worth having" mentality, which drives me up a wall, and they'll forget about your girls and only focus on the baby, who just HAPPENS to be a boy.

Answer 5

It is not anyone's business how many children you have. I would stop telling people the sex of the baby. Just smile and say "We already love this baby whether it is a boy or a girl." and leave it at that.

Answer 6

I wouldnt stop telling people. Sometimes, women can handle that many kids..or more...God bless you really.. Its nice to know we have mothers out there that can bring that many beautiful people into the world. I personally, dont want more then two..currently have one..I just couldnt handle it :P And congrats on your baby boy :) Boys are wonderful and very close to momma.

Answer 7

Can't really stop telling people. Or, you could but you will get the same reactions once he's born. :) People are rude. I'd say something like "well, we've always wanted 5 so we might keep going." That usually shuts people up.

Answer 8

At what age did you commence ladies? sixteen How did your mom and dad cope with the circumstances? My father did no longer be responsive to...and did no longer discover out til i became very almost 18. My mom kinda acknowledged like she became going to bypass out once I instructed her i mandatory to be positioned on the pill. yet have been given over it. i think of as quickly as she found out it became love and not a fling or a guy employing me she became ok. Do you remorseful approximately it ? and why? I remorseful with regard to the time i could have waited til somewhat long into our courting. Did you think of it became genuine love and did you reside with that guy or did it end? Its very almost 5 years on account that...we broke up two times for a pair of month each and each yet i'm nonetheless that guy (he became 17 very almost 18 on the time) We now stay mutually and went procuring for jewelry final week. Your appropriate guess mom could be, be there for her be information. think of decrease back to your first time and the shape you felt. She might have had to attend and nonetheless can bypass decrease back to that. merely keep in mind do no longer tell her of her errors. additionally do no longer tell her she became incorrect. helping her get start administration and information risk-free intercourse could be large too.

Answer 9

That would be SO annoying. I totally understand why you are frustrated.



Try having a little fun with it. Maybe tell them you were really trying for puppies so this might not be it for you... A stupid comment deserves a stupid response. I'm a smart *ss though so that is my way of handling ignorance...

Answer 10

Tell them what you want them to know, and if they make rude comments to you, tell them how many children you have is your business and if you want to have 10, you will.

Answer 11

as long as you can financially afford to take care of your kids, its no one's buisness how many you have. Good Luck and Congrads!

Answer 12

you shouldnt care what people think...its your life, your family, your baby, your husband........! as long as the baby is healthy what more could you ask for x