Hubby doesn't understand pregnancy?

Question

I'm married to a wonderful man but he's driving me crazy. He's is the US army and I'm in the UK. I'm 39, have two children aged 15 and 12. I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my hubby's first child. I'm nausea 24/7. He's telling me this isn't normal as he's working with a couple of women who are pregnant and they're not being this sick. I've told him people are different. Will he listen? NO!!! He's telling me to go to the doctors about it which I have and like I thought my doc said there's not a lot that can be done as I'm in early stages. I know my hubby finds it difficult because we're not together. I was going to US to see him last week but had to cancel my flight because of the nausea.

My question is, how do I make him understand that this is the joys of pregnancy?

Answer 1

Bless him - he is across the other side of the world from you and this is his first child, so he is bound to over react about things and worry a bit more.



Remember the first time you were pregnant, didnt you stress at the slightest thing and think everything was going to go wrong. Let him know that it will get better and email him constant updates. Send him a book about pregnancy so he feels like he is involved as well even though he is so far away

Answer 2

I don't suppose you can, if it is his first child, he is bound to be anxious, and as you say your situation does not help. Have you tried ginger biscuits? I have 4 children and had morning sickness for the first 4 months with every pregnancy,just had to get used to it. I used to crave a cup of tea, as soon as I drank it I was as sick as a pig and to this day I still have that feeling when I have a cup of tea, can only drink it in the afternoon. You have the upper hand as you have two other children but try to remember all the anxiety you felt with the first baby, good luck.

Answer 3

MEN! bless them my hubby wanted to rush me to hospital as soon as i had a show with my 2nd child. It was nothing much and the contractions were very mild! so I said before I go I would like a bath to freshen up! he was panicking incase I had her in he bathroom! lol! could you not get the doc to clarify this and then tell him?? or send him a note from the doc?? just an idea! I hope your sickness improves and good luck x

Answer 4

I think its just anxiety hun and theres really not alot you can do about it!! Even if he reads every article ever written he will STILL worry!! In fact if he's like my ex it will make him worse cos he will find other stuff to stress about.

Its his first baby and some men just get so anxious about things going wrong they drive themselves potty.

He probably also feels bad that he cant be with you to take care of you either.

My ex was convinced that i was going to die in labour to the point he had me scared!!

In my next pregnancy I kept quiet about the bad stuff and just mentioned the good!! We were both a lot happier!! LOL

Good luck hun!

Answer 5

Just reassure him, remember it's his first child and can only go on what he is seeing/hearing. You have been through this before but can you remember what you were like with your first child???



It's great that your hubby cares so much, I am sure in a few weeks he will settle down a little



Congratulations and good luck

Answer 6

Find a good web site or a book explaining all the different changes that are going to happen and how these changes are different for each women.

He sounds concerned and I think its cute. At least he isnt like mine and accused me of making stuff up just for attention....lol

Men are rediculous sometimes.

Answer 7

Well you could try taking him to your appointments and letting your doctor or nurse help him understand that all women react to pregnancy differently. Or going online when he has some free time and looking up different pregnancy symptoms from websites. Maybe if he gets more than 3 views he will begin to understand it better.



Good Luck and Congrats

Answer 8

I think you are going to have to tell him to read about pregnancy if he is not going to believe you. I don't think there is a book I have read yet (and I have read a LOT of them) that does not mention morning sickness...or all day sickness...whatever you want to call it.



I think that hearing it from somewhere else is the only way he will budge on this one.

Answer 9

pahh

fact is if my woman was sick id care too



so i would suggest some herbal tea for your problems

prahaps camamile i believe this helps with honey

my bunny



im not being funny ...



but honey what about a nice back and belly oiling ?



and hanging upside down

or lieing on your belly in the swimming pool !!!

Answer 10

Take him to the doctors with you or an antinatal check up they are very understanding of how protective and worried he is , they will tell him all is fine and it will help him to stop worring because thats all it is, he loves you and the baby and only wants to keep you both safe, telling them its ok doesnt work they need to hear it from a doctor or midwife to put their minds to rest, mine was the same on our first.

Congratulations you you all and good luck . xxx

Answer 11

Email him a link to an article about pregnancy perhaps?

Answer 12

Send him the book, "what to expect when your wife is expecting." These books are truly amazing. It may give him better insight as to what you are going through.



Good luck!

Answer 13

There is actually a haines manual about babies, you know thee people that make car manuals? i know it sounds odd but they do and you can buy it in halfords. Its great for dads! maybe you could send him a copy x

Answer 14

show this yahoo answers forum to him.. he can better understand the joys of a pregnent

Answer 15

buy him the book "What to expect when you are expecting"