anyone gone to nct antenatal classes on their own?

Question

i'm dreading going to my nct antenatal classes next month as from the sounds of it it's gonna be full of couples. ones i imagine to be smug. and coupley. i'm single. they'll all be doing their partner exercises together and i'll be paired with the teacher. or on my own, looking like a prat. and they'll all have stuff in common, and not be on their own! anyone experienced this? any tips apart from dragging my mum along to a few?

Answer 1

Hey, I know exactly how you feel! I went to an ante-natal day held at my local hospital last week and I was kind of sad to look around at all the happy couples.. it kind of made me feel sick with jealousy as I was the youngest there and also the only single parent. The whole time I was worrying about what everybody was thinking about me! (pregnancy paranoia I guess!) and I gelt like crying. But you know something, I went up to the midwife after the end of the session and she was so lovely I told her my worries about being a single parent and she told me not to worry at all she said that she was a single mum and it was the best thing that ever happened to her :-) I was really grateful cos I could tell she had picked up on how upset I was during the session and I left the hospital feeling strong. Hey why not take your mum along... I would have taken mine if she wasn't busy :-)

The way I see it is just go the once to try it out and if it's not for you then you don't have to go back but at least you know you checked it out :-)



*hugs and good luck*

Answer 2

I attended NCT antenatal classes and found them fantastic and learnt a lot...but I have to admit that we were 8 couples and no single people around. I believe you have the contact details of your teacher or the person who booked the class for you? If I were you, I would get in touch with them and see what they can suggest. There is NO WAY you are the only one in this situation so they may have classes just for single people. Alternatively, go with a good mate.

Answer 3

I have just finished my NCT course and I really enjoyed it. There was even a guy who came along a few weeks without his partner as she worked shifts. It wont be a problem with you being on your own - a lot of the exercises or discussions they split into male and female anyway.



I totally disagree with the person who said that they tell you how to bring up your kids - I found that the NCT classes just gave me lots of information that allowed me to make informed choices.



I have made so many friends through my NCT group and I think it is a brilliant thing to do whether you are on your own or with a partner. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I'm sure your teacher will put you at your ease. Just go in there and be confident, no doubt there will be questions from the others but I'm sure they wont be malicious, just curious.

I also did NCT classes on my own as my partner wasn't able to attend, I don't feel I suffered because of it.

Answer 5

my partner had to work for my antenatal classes and to be quite honest he wouldn't have enjoyed them...boring as hell!!! I was only 20 and was scared of what all the smug couples would think, but my best friend came along and as well as putting her off childbirth for life, I think it was seeing a real placenta that did that, we had a real laugh and it was good just to act girly and have some time with her before my little man took over my life!!!

Answer 6

convinced, it really is a sturdy attending to understand journey, though don't sense undesirable in case you won't be able to attend each and every class. that is interesting to take a chum or your spouse with you. you ought to get some neat interpreting cloth and perchance even some loose samples and coupons as well.

Answer 7

I don't think it's necessarily your partner you take but your birthing partner (which is quite often someone else). I think you should take someone, preferably someone who's had one before who can also be at the birth with you. To be fair I think most men are rubbish at this stuff and your probably better off.



Also, just remember even if they are couply in public, at home she's bitching at him for being lazy and he's not getting any coz her boobs hurt!!!

Answer 8

I never went to ante natel and i'm so glad. They tend to tell you the right and wrong ways to bring up a baby. I decided to work it out on my own as i went along so if i did do something that wasn't to the book,i didnt feel guilty. No-one can tell you how to bring your child up,only you. My daugther is 6 months old now and is in an amazing routine. I put her down awake and she sleeps in her own room 7pm till 8 am everynight now. My friends who went to ante natel still have there kids in bed with them and they are going to bed at stupid times!!