help! pregnant with my first baby, buying a house, and husband freaked out & packed up his stuff! what to do?

Question

help! pregnant with my first baby, buying a house, and husband freaked out & packed up his stuff! what to do?

Answer 1

It isn't any of his buisness if you were masturbating in the bathroom. He obviously has bigger issues.



If he has ever hit you, leave... but if the fight just escalated too far, then cool off and reevaluate.



You know your relationship better than anyone else. But, abuse WILL not be accepted.

Answer 2

I think you absolutely did the right thing. You husband showed signs of physical aggressivness, which should not be tolerated at ANY level. In addition, it's not a good sign that he obviously doesn't trust you (by saying you always lie), and that he over-reacted to a small issue.

I think he needs a wake up call, and you gave it to him. If he comes back, be strong and ask him what changes he plans on making.

If he stays gone, then that just says a lot about him, and it's probably better anyway.



Good luck!

Answer 3

Is it his business if you were masterbating??? I don't know if I would want someone like that in my life. Has he always been this way or just since you found out you were pregnant? If he's always been like this, then expect it to get worse. If it just happened because of the pregnancy, sometimes it's hard to men to deal with pregnancy. They freak out and act weird for awhile. My husband laid in bed for a week crying. I just let him be and went on with my life. Our pregnancy was planned. It took him 5 months to come around and now that he has he's been great. I'm sure if you decided to end your marriage your wouldn't be alone! Even if you were completely alone, don't you think it's better than getting treated like that?? You need to think about your little one in there and what you want in his or her life. If that's going to be the father is it fair to them?? Good luck!~

Answer 4

You did do the right thing, I put up with crap like that for five years...and regret every day that I lost...my children are better for me leaving. You don't want your child to grow up and think that this behavior is except able. If he wants to work it out...and this was the first time I would strongly advise some counseling...and it also depends on what you mean by "checked you" because the safety of you and that child is what matters..and keep in mind most abuse will start when your pregnant..they think you won't leave, they depend on your intentions of the "Happy Family" and use it against you..It is very hard..and he'll beg, cry etc. But you know what is right stick to your guns..Good luck and God Bless

Answer 5

Do not put yourself through this.........Do not worry.......that is not good for your baby at ALL! If your husband is going to get you all worried while you are pregnant over something so stupid he really is not thinking about your child. I will not lie it is better to do it with someone by your side however if the someone by your side is not a good person and would flip out on you about such a silly issue, would this really be a man you would want your child around? Sometimes its just better to be strong for your child and seperate from something that may be harmful!

Answer 6

well u don't have to take that **** from no one don't beg him to come back he'll ralize what he got once he's alone and have time to cool of me and my husband went through the same **** and worse just wait and see what he do

Answer 7

I think you did absolutely nothing wrong. Since i dont know him very well i cant judge him too much but from what he did to you he seems like a very nasty man and there was no need for him to be abusive to you, esp in that way. I think you should reconsider your relationship with him, that may be hard now your pregnant but only you can make the right choice, all i wanted to say is you did nothing wrong even if you did masterbate! Good luck and dont stress too much, its no good for when your pregnant and your husband should understand that. xX

Answer 8

IT sounds more like he was trying to pick a fight so that HE could leave. Has this been happening often? If hes been saying things such as him having a high sex drive he may be trying ot satisfy hisself outside the home. That is why he may of got mad at you for supposingly "masturbating" in the bathroom. To me it sounded intentional. I dont mean to sound negative but if he doesnt come back then somethings really wrong. That would be very childish for him to be upset over something like that.



Good luck~

Answer 9

If this is not usual behavior it is just him freaking out. Mine did something similar. He got extremely mean for no reason and when I asked him why he screamed it was because everything wrong in his life was because of me. He told me he regretted being with me and now because of the pregnancy he was stuck. So I told him to get out and leave me alone.



Well later that same day he talked to his dad about how he was feeling with the pregnancy and such, and he was just acting like a lot of men do when they start freaking out over things getting to committed. After talking to someone about how he was feeling he felt a lot better and spent the rest of the pregnancy making that one day up to me.

Answer 10

HUGS AND GOOD FOR YOU SWEETIE!!

IT WAS A MUTUAL DECISION TO HAVE ACHILD... AND NOW SEEMS TO ME HE WAS LOOKING FOR AN EXCUSE TO LEAVE

AND HE USED YOUR SUPPOSEDLY MASTERBATING..AS THE EXCUSE... ops sorry

also yes you did the right thing.. he had no right checking you..he has no trust apparently and the ones making the scene over such bullshit are usully the ones messing up themselves ok?? stay calm as ya can sweetie and dont kiss his *** to come back

think the lord will provide and he will..and your family and friends are there as well for you

it will all work out.. when and he will...he comes back tell him right then your not going to tolerate that behavior again..and if it was that easy for him to leave..then maybe you are better offf

hugsss an good luck dear

Answer 11

ok so whats wrong if you were masturbating? its not like you have a guy in there watching you masturbate. But anyways, doesn't like he's a safe guy to be around with when you are pregnant if got a bit abusive. Sometimes GUYS get those mood swings too (sympathy pains) I would probably say thats what the problem is. But If I'm wrong, it's best that you let your husband do what he wants to (i don't wanna say that during the time u guys are apart, he'll be sleepin with another women) because that happens often when the guys leave their pregnant partner. He may just need some time alone for a bit and to think about stuff. I just hope whatever happens, turns out best for you and the family.

Answer 12

Wow...you are in a bit of a pickle huh? Well i would personally say that a baby does add a ton of stress on both parents and your husband may have broke under that stress...I would just let him cool off and you need to cool off too b/c the stress of this could hurt your baby.....just wait it out for a few days if he isnt home tonight...if he is try to have an adult conversation about what is going thru his head! That may help......if he still isnt home I would wait and try to contact him tomorrow and that way he has had pently of thinking time!



Good Luck w/ everything!