Question:
my husband and I have been having problems now for the last 5 days last night he didnt come home. he has never
the truth, do you hear me
2008-06-08 05:45:48 UTC
done this is the past and now im afraid something has happened or he just didnt come home. i dont like people family in my problems bu now it seems as though i have no other choice. by the way im 35w pregnant. his family lives in another country should i email his dad and tell him whats going on? we are really close. i just need to tell someone because i cant take it anymore. would that be wrong to tell his dad whats going on. btw im going to put him out when he gets home. whereever hes at i hope they have a home for him to live in full time
Eleven answers:
kickin it in cali
2008-06-08 06:00:41 UTC
iam so sorry he did this to you, at a time when you need alot of support, that wrong for him to do this to you now iam sorry, just think about whats good for you and your baby, i dont see why you should hold this back tell his dad i would, when i hubby get out of order i call his mom she is in another country and she fixes him and when the phone card runs out she sends him to the store to buy another one so she can finish yelling at him, and she tells me that her son is not in her country she cant see what goes on and she wants to know, and she says she does not care if its good or bad she wants to know because its her son and he sometimes gets a phone card and calls his mom and tells on me too and i get yelled at too, but i love her she is like my mom too, so i would talk to them your child has a right to know his or her grandparents if dad wants to run around , thats on him you can be alright just you and your baby you dont need a part time father,you should still have a relationship with his family take care i hope this helps
zing507
2008-06-08 06:04:33 UTC
My ex went out all the time and stayed out all nite alot. Always came home with his tail between his legs. I'd be up all nite looking out the window for every car headlite hoping it would be him so I understand your anxiety. When he comes home yes you will explode with every rite. Depends on what the problem has been for 5 days so I cant give any advise. Just worry about you and your baby and the hell with him for not being concerned. If the father emails you and asks how Tony is then tell him if he hasnt gotten home. Ikept it from my inlaws and his mother thought my ex was "PERFECT". My thoughts are with you. I dont miss those terrible nites.
tatsmenz
2008-06-08 06:09:10 UTC
Whats been the problem for the past 5 days?..if hes never done this type of thing before, i wouldnt automatically think hes doing anything wrong, with anyone else (female) in paticular, (which is what I think your insinuating). I dont think you should e-mail his Dad, talk to him for christ sake! the problems your having arent just affecting you alone, hes obviously feeling it too. You have got a wee one on the way, you both need to talk this through, listen to your heart..remember he's never done this before! Good luck to you both.
just a mom
2008-06-08 05:53:28 UTC
Have you called the hospitals or anything, just to make sure something isn't wrong? I guess I would check out all possibilities before involving other family, but if you've done all of that I would probably resort to contacting his family to ask them if they've heard from him. I'm very careful not to involve my family in my marriage issues, but there are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed & leaving your pregnant wife and not calling or anything for 5 days is one of them.
missjellybaby
2008-06-08 05:54:01 UTC
ok but this is your HUSBAND we're talking about!! if you're married you should be able to trust that he's just over at a buddies house blowing off some steam cooling down until you guys can talk your problems out. youre 35 weeks pregnant and dont need to be putting him out or even arguing. its none of your father in laws business, hes in a nother country what can he do anyway?? ur both adults u shouldn't be bringing anyone else into the relationship to take sides. if you need help with your marriage, seek a professional- get real help. its going to be ok, you just need to talk to your man and tell him how you feel- but just talk it out. if you feel like yelling tell him that you do and that you guys should finish up another time. dont stress tho girl cuz that baby will feel it!!! good luck and congrats on the baby
Jim B
2008-06-08 06:00:26 UTC
No It would not be wrong for you to tell his father. When he does get home and if your really serious about putting him out, I would have a restraining order waiting to be served on him. If everything is really that bad. You should not have to be intimidated by anyone, if that is the case. You really do not say.
anonymous
2016-10-01 07:26:33 UTC
ok, permit's evaluate issues. He hasn't back homestead or back your telephone call, he hasn't yelled at you in the 5 years you adult men have been married, you adult men have 3 babies at the same time, your ability went out earlier he left, rocky marriage at present, somebody grew to become into in the historic past yet you will be able to desire to no longer hear them and additionally to procure the comparable reaction the 2d time you referred to as... the 1st element that could desire to are starting to be me after he yelled at me does not be the guy which you will be able to desire to no longer hear in the historic past or the undeniable fact that he purely yelled at you, it may be the undeniable fact that he did no longer even have the audacity to a minimum of ask if the lights fixtures had come back on and/or if the youngsters have been ok. My first question to my considerable different could have been "Is the electrical energy back on?" and 2d could be "Are the youngsters ok?", regardless if the lights fixtures have been back or no longer, b/c maximum babies are terrified of storms and the darkish and whilst the lights fixtures circulate b/c of a foul typhoon, that makes their concern extra desirable. My 2 babies are like that. i does not precisely think of the full worse, like cheating, yet purely right have self assurance it could be on the suitable of the record of issues. whilst he DID return homestead, i could pull him to the area (faraway from the youngsters, for sure) and tell him we would desire to talk approximately what purely occurred. point out to him that it wasn't like him to yell at you, and it worried you that he did no longer even ask how the youngsters have been keeping up (rather if he's a competent father to his babies). tell him you choose for the actuality approximately it, regardless what the clarification is. besides, anybody merits to understand the actuality. permit him understand the actuality approximately the way it made you sense. now and back it is problematical to return to a determination no count number if to stick on your coronary heart or your techniques. the two may well be deceptive at circumstances, in spite of this, in this concern, the two might desire to truthfully be precise. He might have been under the effect of alcohol and stayed with a chum, yet that chum might desire to be that somebody else's hands. I deeply wish no longer for the sake of your loved ones. solid success with each little thing and that i'm hoping you hold us published. purely right needs sweetie.
arty_green_lady
2008-06-08 05:55:03 UTC
It's not a nice thing his done but perhaps theres an explanation. Maybe he wants time to think, the coming of a new baby brings many changes to both of you. He could be scared.
TX Cyclone
2008-06-08 05:54:08 UTC
Doesn't sound good. I don't think you should involve other family members though. You really need to get him to tell you what is going on.
anonymous
2008-06-08 05:55:59 UTC
give him till the end of today. then start calling everyone. hospitals, police, his family etc.
Dennis G
2008-06-08 05:52:24 UTC
Check for lipstick on his dipstick.



Dennis G


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