How can I cheer up my pregnant girlfriend?

2010-03-19 05:38:40 UTC

Sounds like you both have a lot on your plate. It may take more than just cheering up, I fear! Try to gently remind her that she needs to be taking things easy whenever she can at the moment, for the sake of her own health and that of the babies. Perhaps you and she could talk about the thing with her family and agree a position you are going to take on it, then speak to them together. If they are causing you and her so much hassle then they are not worth having around at the moment. At very least they should have some care for their daughter's health and happiness as well as some respect for her choices.

As far as what she's eating, try not to worry too much. Lots of pregnant women eat a less than ideal diet, often because of cravings or because they cannot keep much down due to morning sickness. Babies take what they need from what mum consumes.

jasmine boycott france

2010-03-19 05:41:02 UTC

Aw, you sound really lovely. I'm sorry her parents can't see that!

I agree with the person who said get a sitter for Winter- perhaps you could have a relaxing evening in, run her a bath, make some nice food (not something you have to work too hard over), light some candles, give her a foot rub.

She *must* take time to eat properly. Even if they do decide to terminate her contract at work, they will have to compensate her, and there will be other jobs. None of you will starve in this day and age, and if you can be frugal you might even find you can maintain a better standard of life in some ways- in that she would be able to spend more time with the kids for a little.

Is there any way you can approach her parents diplomatically? Perhaps something along the lines of- I know we haven't always seen eye to eye, but we both love your daughter and want what is best for her. What would you advise we do in this situation, because this stress is doing her no good whatsoever? This might help iron things out a little, you never know. Unless you reckon they wouldn't have anything constructive to say, ever?

Wonderwoman

2010-03-19 05:46:53 UTC

I've been through some crap myself and come out the other side. (domestic abuse, redundancy, no job, having no money)

I've found that THE most important things are your kids and family and the love between you all.

She should make a conscious decision not to worry about the things she cannot control and concentrate on the ones she can. Like her nutrition, and you and Winter. The rest can go hang.

Her parents will just have to damn suck it up! You're here to stay and they dont get a part in that decision. They are going to cause her to be ill if they dont just leave her alone. So your gf can make the decision and leave THEM alone until they behave. As for the job, I was made redundant at 3 months pregnant in June 2008 and havent managed to work since, now my second child is due in one week. We are POOR. But the sun comes up every day and we manage. It isnt worth stressing over, risking the health of the babies who are so precious to you all, her health, your relationship. All for the good opinion of others? No way. She needs to reset her priorities or she will lose you, and maybe her babies and definitely her health.

L

2010-03-19 08:06:30 UTC

Oh my god she sounds just like me!!! I am also 6 months pregnant and I am finding it hard to cope with a demanding job/not sleeping well/feeling emotional etc and I am not expecting twins, dont have any other children and dont have the worry of losing my job so she must be feeling super-stressed out!!!! It sounds like she needs a break. I went to see my doctor as I felt I couldnt cope anymore and he signed me off work for 10 days to have a break which is exactly what I need. Is there any chance she could see her doctor? They cannot fire her for being signed off sick. It really sounds like she needs a break. The stress played on my mind and I couldnt sleep either. If I were you I would do everything you can to make life easier for her and take a bit of the pressure off her. I also suggest she has a break from contacting her family as it will do nobody any good at this tense time.

Kate

2010-03-19 05:35:31 UTC

Plan a small get-a-away. I know when I'm stressed out the last thing I want to do is think about what's bugging me. So take away as many stresses as you can. Send your daughter to her grandparents house for the night, tell your gf to call off work one day and spend the day just shopping for the twins. Talk to her about how the fact that her parents aren't too fond of you doesn't bug you and you are going to be there for her. Take her to eat at her favorite place. Just let her relax and enjoy your company. Find a way to get back to the way the both of you felt when you were just dating with no children and no stresses.

Good luck

kiantie

2010-03-19 05:39:06 UTC

take control you need to start telling her what do not aggressively but like on a saturday or when she's not working cook a proper breakfast everything she eats and make sure she eats it all. then tell her she's not working shes relaxing today. clean the house take care of your daughter and just sit down and talk things through. then to end the night try somethng romantic flowers chaolate and if shes in the mood rock her world. just take control make her see getting stressed out in not good for the babies(not guilt tripping that will result in her being agrressive) but nicely cook, clean and communicate.

Hazel Eyes

2010-03-19 05:39:50 UTC

I sorry, and I hope it gets better.

In the meantime maybe you can pack her a lunch, that will help her and be good for her and the twins on the way. When she gets home from work offer a massage or run her feet and ask about her day...just let her vent and just listen.

I hope Winter is better and I wish you all the best...praying for you

hazel_chica

2010-03-19 05:35:34 UTC

hmmmm thats a toughy!!! but Pregnant Women dont handle stress the same as they would Pre pregnancy. (trust me I've learned that one on my own!) I would just be there for her. Get her a massage at a spa or take her to a nice day out!!! and if at all possible, talk to her parents one on one and explain to them in the most mature way possible, that their opinions on you are stressing out their pregnant daughter more than she needs. if the problem is with you, don't take it out on her u know? good luck!

cheryl

2010-03-19 05:39:27 UTC

aw hunni . talk to ur girlfriend tell her how you feel and ur worried about her and how you can help her bit more to relax and ask her to eat bit more properly .

for her family not wanting you in ur girlfriends or baby's life you should ignore that unless she feels same way then discuss how ur life and hers is going to be.

to cheer her up how about a nice meal out? run her a bath ? tell her how much you love her ? ask what she would like you to do for her? big box of chocolate? or her fav craving get that in ready

Jess

2010-03-19 05:43:20 UTC

maybe you should look for a job.

i think your constant reassurance and actions of love will keep her happy. give her random massages, foot rubs, the little things

Sammiiee

2010-03-19 05:33:36 UTC

do something nice for her. take her out for a nice meal. get a sitter for winter. and enjoy yourselves x

2010-03-19 05:33:54 UTC

1) Cut a hole in a box

2) Put your junk in that box

3) Make her open the box!

AND THATS THE WAY YOU DO IT!