Which is nicer: pleasant surprise or planned conception?

Question

I always pictured that when the day comes that I get a positive pregnancy test it would be a pleasant surprise rather than a planned event. Not entirely sure why,

So which, in your opinion is better (presuming you're in a settled, financially stable relationship and want kids): getting a pleasant surprise (i.e. you weren't trying but ended up pregnant and are happy about it) or a planned conception (i.e. that you were ttc)?

If anyone has had experience of both I'd be especially interested in your experience.

Answer 1

both are awesome as the end result is the same....a beautiful baby!!



i've had both...i guess the surprise was easier because sometimes planning can be stressful...

Answer 2

I have been taking my pill and never missed a day so the day i found out i was pregnant i was utter distraught, most definitely not in a financial situation, i worked full time and hard just to pay my rent with little left over, i didn't plan ay children before my 30th, im now nearly 21.

I delayed taking the test thinking i have taken all my pills i cant be pregnant, however after a month no period and sore boobs, i took a test and had a positive, took 3 more and hit me i was pregnant.

Mine and my partner reaction a abortion, until my brother sat me down and told me to think through and in the end i thought i cant do that i have a living person inside me as i was quite far when i found out, im now just over 18 weeks, and im very very excited.

How i got caught? Im a care assistant and the month i conceived i had a horible bug called D&V.

THE UNPLANNED SURPRISE TURNED OUT TO BE OUR BEST PRESENT EVER!!!!

Answer 3

Well, with my first son it was not planned. It ended up being bittersweet because I wanted him and his dad thought that by me getting pregnant i would want to marry him. I didn't want to and we ultimately broke up before he was even born. With my second son, I had been in a relationship for five years when I became pregnant. We tried for over two years and when it finally happened our relationship fell apart. After two failed relationships and two wonderful boys, I had pretty much given up on love and the idea of having anymore children. I married my husband on November 7, 2008 and exactly one week later, I found out I was pregnant again. We were not trying, this baby was not planned but we are thrilled. I'm finally having a girl! So, after sharing my story, I'm not sure. I know that all my children are blessings, but I think this experience has been the best so far.

Answer 4

They are both good. We were trying for our first for 18 months and had 6 months of Clomid before I got the BFP. We were over the moon, I was starting to give up all hope. When our son was 4 months old I was feeling really ill and my dh suggested a hpt which i laughed at. However, we were going to a party that night so I thought I better be safe as I wouldn't drink if I was preg. Anyway yeah I got another bfp, we were in total shock but the baby is due in 4 weeks and we can't wait to add to our family!

Answer 5

Planned conception for me! XD Hubby and I have been ttc for a yr before getting pregnant..



Finally, a very happy and greatly awaited "Positive" and the first look at our precious during the scan! All our hard work had been rewarded!

Answer 6

Well I am 26, and wasn't planning this, my first, pregnancy.

But me and my fiance agreed that if we were going to have sex, then we were going to be prepared to have a child - if such thing happened.

And here I am now, 18 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I've just finished university and my fiance is a doctor.

The day I found out was the happiest day of both mine, and my partner's life. I regret nothing!

Lisa.Rr x

Answer 7

with my daughter we were ttc and i fell pregnant straight away. the positive was a big shock as i didnt expect to get pregnant so quickly or at all as i have pcos. surprises are nice but we were better prepared and desperately wanted a baby, so we still got a lovely surprise finding i was pregnant.

Answer 8

well its still a suprise when it happens.



my cousina nd her husband had been trying for 1.5 years and thought it would never happen. she is now 22 weeks pregnant and was very much suprised when she did finally get that BFP



my son was a suprise, I was 18 but I was VERY happy and excited!