Question:
We may be having a baby, does it sound like my friend loves me?
Dreamer
2010-09-07 18:34:04 UTC
So me and this guy, who is one of my good friends, we might be pregnant. I told him and he was at work and just up and left at midnight to drive an hour to come see me and the test results which were positive, but really faint. We went out to the cvs and he asked the pharmacy person all about the tests and results and bought all the tests for me to take and stayed with me as I took the tests and we talked for like 3 hours about everyting. He said he wouldnt have come if he didnt care about me. That he doesnt want to be in the childs life. That he would finiacially supprt it and help me. He said he was really scared and so unsure what to do. He was freaking out just saying whatever come to his mind and so was I. He was saying consider abortion, that he was afraid his parents would disown him and everything in his life would be ruined. It is a bad situation in general. He told me that he would join the military to support financially and he said that if he left now he would be back as I give birth and would be abloe to have benfits, money, and a place for the baby and me and him to live. I dont know what to think because of his actions and words not mathcing. He shows me he trly cares about me. but some of th things he says dont sync. He said he was really scared because he never wanted kids and that he didnt know how he could love a child more than he loves his nephew and the fact he doesnt know scares him the most. He said he doest want to hate the baby, and hes afraid of how mych he may love it. I dont know what to think? Does it sound like he loves me or is just a really good friend
Four answers:
Ash s
2010-09-07 18:51:46 UTC
he cares about you and loves you as a friend and the mother of his unborn child. i wouldnt get married just because you guys are having a baby. also about the military thing he may not be there for the child. you have to think he will have to do boot camp and school for what he is going in for and after school he will be sent to his first duty station. he can ask to take leave but there is no guarantee he will get it.



the only way that he will get money for you and you to have insurance is if you two get married. no matter what the military will have him pay child support. and your child will have insurance. but he has to fill out all the necessary forms.
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2010-09-08 01:48:02 UTC
If this guy is just your friend - how on earth have you ended up getting pregnant by him, do you always have unprotected sex with your friends? What was wrong with meeting a man to have a proper relationship with?



Shows the downside of having a friend with benefits - oh and please adopt instead of aborting. Google abortion and the effects of it on the unborn baby view the pics and then you will know why unprotected sex is so stupid when you do not want to deal with the consequences,



Sorry for the rant.
Stacy
2010-09-08 01:40:06 UTC
he does care about you and he may love you but not be in love with you there is a difference. sounds like he wants to the right thing but i wouldn't start hunting for wedding dresses and rings. when the baby comes he may realize he wants to be in its life but that doesn't mean your future is anything more than parents
saywhointhewhatnow
2010-09-08 01:43:01 UTC
If you are in fact pregnant. Do not abort. That's you LIVING CHILD in there. At least give it up for adoption if you can't handle it.


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